What is Peaceful Parenting?
Have you been told or thought that 'positive or peaceful' parenting means permissive parenting?
It's a question I get asked A LOT.
And as a mum to an only child, people think that if I parent my child in a gentle way that she will turn out to be a spoiled brat.
But what a lot of these people don't realise is that 'positive parenting' means parenting for positive outcomes.
It's asking yourself - is what I am doing as a parent having a positive impact on the development of the relationship between me and my child?
Is what I'm doing helpful or hurtful for my child?
It's also asking yourself - what do I want the outcome of that experience with my child to be?
Do I want guilt, shame or resentment to arise later as a result of my interaction with them?
Or would I rather support them in building a skill, meeting a need or expressing an emotion?
When we parent positivity we do so with dignity, respect and with the sovereignty of the child in mind.
We also set loving limits, based on family values, mindful of the fact that children look to us to be their strong anchor in stormy times.
It's not always an easy journey and sometimes requires a lot of re-learning and re-framing on the part of the parent.
In some ways, it requires the parent to go into the role of the child again - being curious and open to walking a different path.
But believe me (and I've been there), the positive parenting path is a much sunnier and more joyful one to travel along.
Get in touch if you want to learn more about how to parent positively. I work with expectant and new parent as well as parents to toddlers, pre-teens and teens.