What buttons does your child push?
Updated: Nov 17, 2020
What triggers you? Is it your children fighting? Or your toddler's tantrums? Maybe your baby crying? If these things make you feel angry, anxious or overwhelmed, you are not alone.
In fact, this instinctual reaction inside of you that causes those big feelings are often a direct result of the way YOU were parented. It's not you, it's generational. It's just wires firing off in your brain from experiences from your own childhood.
Thinking back to your childhood:
- Did you feel completely seen or understood by your parents?
- Was it safe for you to feel big feelings like getting angry or yelling without being told to be quiet, sent to your room, or even spanked?
- When you were upset, did your parents comfort you, help you name the feelings you were experiencing and give you coping skills?
If the answer to any of those is NO, then you are not alone. So many of us (including me) went through the same thing. And it wasn't necessarily your parents fault - they were just parenting you how their parents parented them, and their parents before them, and on and on.
We used to think that our brains were fixed after childhood and we couldn't change them. Now, neuroscience has discovered differently. We CAN rewire our brains away from past hurts and learn new techniques which means we can re-parent ourselves and be the best role models for our little ones. As the saying goes, it's never too late to have a happy childhood.
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